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Ready To Stop Feeling Stuck, Hurt, Lonely, And Confused?
If you're ready to shift from hurting to healing so that you can end the cycle of painful relationships, I can help.
I remember the feelings all too well.
The tight knot in my stomach every time my phone pinged, hoping it was him.
Nights spent wide awake, replaying conversations, obsessing over what I could have said or done differently.
I was always the one loving more, investing more, giving more, trying to keep the peace and the flame alive.
The fear of abandonment felt like a constant ghost hovering in the shadows.
And here's the real kicker - I didn't like him as a person, yet, I found myself unable to let go, trapped in a cycle of emotional dependency, accepting the bare minimum- because I'd made him my entire world.
In those moments, I felt like I was losing myself.
A bitter feeling of not being good enough coupled with the fear he would leave seeped into my bones paralyzing any thoughts I had of leaving.
I was stuck, hurt, and utterly confused.
It Was In These Painful, Chaotic Moments That I Had An Epiphany...
It hit me like a thunderbolt - this painful cycle of fear, insecurities, and unhealthy attachments wasn't limited to my love life.
It was weaving its dark thread into my friendships, turning them into unbalanced, draining bonds.
It was in the office, where I'd accept disrespect, constantly pushing myself too hard for approval. It was even with my family, where I'd morph into a people-pleaser just to feel accepted.
Suddenly, it was clear. The issue wasn't the people around me as much as it was this destructive pattern I was trapped in.
That revelation was my turning point. I realized I had the power to break this cycle, to heal, and to cultivate healthier relationships.
This was where my journey to self-empowerment began.
That's when I realized that healing doesn't come from a change of partner.
It comes from a change within.
It was time to stop playing the savior to everyone but myself.
This realization set off a chain reaction, like falling dominoes, forcing me to confront my fears, my insecurities, and my trauma.
I sought help to understand the roots of my pain.
And you know what? It worked.
It was like swapping my daily diet of self-doubt for a helping of self-worth.
No longer obsessing over every text he didn't send or losing sleep over arguments that happened eons ago.
I stopped being the martyr, the 'fixer' in every relationship, and started setting boundaries that were respected.
I kissed the fear of abandonment goodbye and embraced the joy of my own company.
Can you imagine trading in the endless cycle of replaying old arguments for peaceful sleep?
Can you picture waking up to a day where you're not haunted by the ghost of your ex?
Or how about this – dating someone you genuinely like, and not just because you're terrified of being alone?
Envision yourself entering relationships, not fueled by anxiety and fear, but from a place of love, respect, and true connection.
See yourself as the main character in your own life, no longer accepting the bare minimum but commanding the respect and love you deserve.
And that dream where you are enough just as you are, without the need to save or fix anyone else?
That becomes your everyday reality.
That's Where The Inner Circle Comes In.
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"...This is the NETFLIX for healing after toxic relationships!"
"By far, your are the only therapist that totally nails why we do what we do while giving us the tools to truly become introspective and heal. With everything I have, thank you! Since following you on Instagram 1 year ago you have completely changed my life!"
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"Hey Ginger, I really wanted to express my appreciation for your content. Almost every post you make resonates so highly with me, and has helped me heal so much. I recently joined your inner circle membership and am super impressed by the high quality of your content. Its insightful and super actionable, and gives me so much comfort. I'm sure you hear this a lot but your work really makes me feel seen. Keep doing what you're doing - it's such good, healing work!
Thank you a million!"
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"Hello! just signed up for The Inner Circle, I am 3 mins in to the first video on obsessive thoughts. WOW I feel so seen and understood and not so alone because obviously enough people feel this way for there to be a master class. I was starting to get really dark but this makes me feel like there is hope and that I'm not crazy!! Thank you!!!!!"
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"I have been going to a therapist for almost a year now but I attribute Gingers work and this group of women to the vast majority of my healing"
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"Y'all you NEED THIS PROGRAM. It will CHANGE YOUR LIFE. I am writing this as someone who decided I would just sit and watch bc I'm "better now" but NOPE I was not better enough. I just fell for the same old fucking trap bc it came in different packaging, and in retrospect ALL of Ginger's words and sayings filled my mind and I was like "DAMMIT if I'd just done the whole Inner Circle Program the first time, I could have avoided this! Truly."
This powerful program was born out of my own healing journey as well as the work I've done with my own psychotherapy clients healing after painful relationships.
It's designed to take you from your lowest lows to your highest highs, navigating the healing journey with a proven framework, empathy, and compassion.
We'll Show You How To...
Learn how to replace forest-fire love with a slow, steady appreciation of your worth, so you don't rush into relationships head-first. We give you the blueprint in our Breaking Premature Attachment In Relationships masterclass.
Rediscover your strength, so that you can love with all your heart, but not lose yourself in the process. This journey begins in The Art of Self-Love and Boundaries masterclass.
Find the courage to acknowledge when a relationship isn't serving you - and the strength to walk away, even when your heart is whispering 'stay.' We'll guide you through this in the Healing Your Self-Concept After A Painful Relationship masterclass.
Cut through the haze of obsessive thoughts and reactive emotions to find a place of calm understanding, where you'll respond, not react. We'll take you through this shift in the Shifting from Survival Mode to Thriving Relationships masterclass.
Kick abandonment fears to the curb and embrace your worth, knowing that you are enough - just as you are. You'll get the keys to this mindset shift in the Overcoming Toxic Shame masterclass.
Release the grip of the past and stop replaying old arguments in your head - instead, use that energy to write your new love story. We open up this perspective in the Finding Closure After Heartbreak masterclass.
Ditch the 'savior' cape and hang up the 'fixer' hat. Start nurturing yourself first and foremost, instead of pouring all your energy into fixing others. We delve into this transformation in the Healing The Savior/Fixer Complex masterclass.
Join us, and let's start over together so that you can radiate confidence and find love that loves you back. It all begins in the Navigating Hermit Mode After A Breakup masterclass.
hey there!
I'm Ginger Dean, psychotherapist, author, and founder of Loving Me After We.
I've walked the path you're on - and even wrote a book about it!
Loving Me After We was born out of this journey, a promise I made to God: If he would help me pull myself out of this emotional rut, I'd devote my life to helping others do the same.
Today, we're the leading community for women healing from toxic relationships, with over 15,000 enrollments who trusted us to guide their healing journey.
Our 50+ masterclasses aren't just a "good to know" - they're a "need to experience." Each one is like a personal empowerment toolkit, aimed at smashing those old, negative habits that have been throwing wrenches in our relationships.
Our live workshops? They're like your cozy corner cafe - a safe, welcoming place for a monthly check-in where you can map out your strengths, get real about your weak spots, and receive some in-the-moment feedback on your healing journey.
Our success path is priceless. It's all about healing at your own speed. Sure, we've got a roadmap to success, but this isn't a race - you can take your sweet time and explore at your own pace.
I've had the honor of working with a pretty diverse group - from survivors of childhood abuse, substance misuse, domestic violence, to veterans, top execs, and government officials. Trust me when I say, I get the multifaceted impact of trauma.
My job? To save you a seat on the years-long therapy train and speed up your healing journey. Let me share my insights, so you can break the cycle of painful relationships and create the kind of love life that makes you feel amazing.
I've been on both sides - the one healing and the one helping others heal. Now, I'm using my story to help thousands of women across the globe on their healing journey.
And speaking from personal experience, joining this journey will be the best call you've ever made. It sure was for me.
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I'm honestly in tears of joy in finally understanding myself more deeply with this course Thank u!!! Just things click and I'm getting a lot of clarity for everything. I know now why if feels to be empowered and love myself and what I see here and in the program shows me how freaking far I've come! And areas I can keep loving and accepting myself more. And I can finally feel feelings lol
She puts her all into everyone of her clients. I love that she walks with you on your journey, she won't abandon you or your process. Step up and commit to yourself and walk how her magic allows you to fully embody yours! I'm gushing but I love this woman so much!
Like a midwife you were there and you get it! You really do get it! With your help, I birthed this new woman looking at me every morning and I love her so much! It brings tears to my eyes just saying that but it's true.
Hi Ginger, I want to share since joining the Inner, I catch myself asking what's the thought/feeling in between x & x. I receive so much clarity from this, & respond instead or react. You often asked others this in the live calls I've replayed. Hope you understand what I mean, haha.
I recently joined your inner circle membership and am super impressed by the high quality of your content. Its insightful and super actionable, and gives me so much comfort. I'm sure you hear this a lot but your work really makes me feel seen. Keep doing what you're doing - it's such good, healing work! Thank you a million!
Hello! just signed up for The Inner Circle, I am 3 mins in to the first video on obsessive thoughts. WOW I feel so seen and understood and not so alone because obviously enough people feel this way for there to be a master class. I was starting to get really dark but this makes me feel like there is hope and that I'm not crazy!! Thank you!!!!!
Hello! just signed up for The Inner Circle, I am 3 mins in to the first video on obsessive thoughts. WOW I feel so seen and understood and not so alone because obviously enough people feel this way for there to be a master class. I was starting to get really dark but this makes me feel like there is hope and that I'm not crazy!! Thank you!!!!!
Here's what you get when you sign up:
* No commitments, join any time and cancel when you're ready
* Access on all your devices from anywhere in the world, even on mobile
*Relationship status doesn't matter
MONTHLY LIVE WORKSHOPS WITH LIVE Q/A ($497 VALUE)
With our live workshops, you'll have a safe space for real-time feedback on your progress, ensuring you're able to gain clarity and make adjustments as needed in order to stay on track in your healing journey.
NEW MASTERCLASS DELIVERED EVERY MONTH ($297 VALUE)
The new monthly masterclass deliveries with workbooks + journal prompts encourage deep self-reflection and cultivate a regular personal growth routine, enabling you to identify hindering patterns while selecting tools that best resonate, customizing your healing path to fit your unique situation.
DIVE IN FROM ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD FROM ANY DEVICE WITH AN INTERNET CONNECTION ($12,177 VALUE)
Instant and on demand access to hundreds of hours of pre-recorded masterclasses, recorded workshop calls, and workbooks ensures that you'll always have a supportive resource to turn to, providing guidance and inspiration as you navigate the ups and downs of your healing journey. Listen on the go, in your car or hunker down during self-care Sunday.
SAFE AND PRIVATE + COMMUNITY OF WOMEN READY TO SUPPORT YOU
Healing happens in community and being part of this safe and private community means you'll be surrounded by women (from all over the world regardless of relationship status) who are also committed to emotional growth and self-awareness motivating you to become the best version of yourself.
BONUS: BOOK CLUB SELECTIONS
Our book selections for each masterclass helps deepen your understanding of the topics discussed so that you can apply the lessons and implement what you're learning and experience the lasting transformation you really want.
BONUS: GUEST EXPERTS ($3582 VALUE)
Access to masterclasses taught by guest experts ensures you receive a variety of perspectives and approaches, which means you can cultivate a healing path that resonates most with your specific healing journey.
STATE OF THE ART MEMBERSHIP PLATFORM
Search Masterclass + Live Workshop transcripts:
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You have the ability to search any word (not just masterclass topics) mentioned in masterclasses or live workshops and jump right to the exact minute mark where it starts without wasting time wading through all of the videos.
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Download transcripts and follow along even when you can't listen or watch the content keeping you connected no matter where you are.
IMMEDIATE ACCESS TO OVER $16,553 WORTH OF HEALING CONTENT THAT YOUR THERAPIST ISN'T TEACHING YOU IN PSYCHOTHERAPY.
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What members say...
Our members have gone on to get into the healthiest relationships they've ever been in, getting engaged while others have saved their marriage from ending and others deciding that divorce was best due to unrelenting abuse.
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Yes!!!! Ginger, my therapist suggested that I should join your inner circle (This was a few years ago.) I had come out of an abusive relationship and was in a state that I wouldn't wish upon my worst enemy. I didn't date for 4 1/2 years. I kept working on myself, therapy and your inner circle. I am now happily engaged to a wonderful, HEALTHY man. Yes ladies they actually!!! I don't think I would've ever called him in had I not healed and worked on myself. Still doing the inner work (which is a journey not a destination). Thank you Ginger!!! ❤️❤️❤️
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The Inner Circle has been groundbreaking and life changing for me. From learning why we've been compelled to choose people from our past, to the Masterclass on Healing the pain of abandonment and rejection with @sitwithsharon all I can say is WOW. Everyone needs to know how incredibly transformative it is. I feel seen. I feel understood and I know healing in on the horizon. Thank you again for creating this membership. ❤️ 🔥
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Y'all you NEED THIS PROGRAM. It will CHANGE YOUR LIFE. I am writing this as someone who decided I would just sit and watch bc I'm "better now" but NOPE I was not better enough. I just fell for the same old fucking trap bc it came in different packaging, and in retrospect ALL of Ginger's words and sayings filled my mind and I was like "DAMMIT if I'd just done the whole Inner Circle Program the first time, I could have avoided this!" Truly.
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Now I've found a man who is so kind, so patient, loving, affectionate, communicative, who treats me like a Queen, and most of all who is so honest and transparent. Things have been progressing quickly but it feels so right and for the first time in over a decade, I'm in one of the most healthiest relationships of my life. I have to admit, it feels so weird. At first, I found myself having self-sabotaging thoughts and trying to find things wrong. I had to check in with myself and get a grip. I know I'm not done working on healing- it's a life long process but a friend told me something beautiful. Love is healing. I don't know where me and my guy will end up but just experiencing this has given me so much hope.
Today, I told the father of my child about me being in a serious relationship and that I would let him know when I will be introducing our daughter to my guy because it's happening soon (we agreed before split and then after that we would do this. He didn't do it with his first girlfriend but did with his second. However, I like to do things to right way regardless of his actions) It went really well. I was surprised by his reaction because he's been so difficult to co-parent with.
All in all ladies, work on yourself, heal, and he will come along. When he does, it will feel right, it will be easy, and you won't guess for one second where you stand with him. You will know without a doubt.
I'm so grateful to Ginger Dean and this group for helping me as I healed/continue to heal. I have learned so much! Leaving a picture of us together for some inspa! ❤️
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About 3 years ago I was awake at 2am recreating conversations between us in my head where I would tell him how badly he had hurt me 😞 🤦♀ Then I recalled him once telling me my abandonment issues were out of control. And I realised I didn't even know I had them or what they were and I googled "how to get over your abandonment issues" 🤦♀ Lame, I know, but also the best google of my life. It led me to loving me after we and Ginger Dean. I felt seen and understood by her posts. And I felt brave enough to slowly change patterns of a lifetime. The most engrained, instinctive patterns that had kept me safe as a child but that were now working against me.
And I absolutely wasn't completely healed, I'm still not, but I finally felt actually safe to date again. And then I started dating a nice guy. And I struggled so hard with the knee jerk reaction to find him unattractive one I knew he like me. With feeling bored in a predictable and reliable relationship. Honestly, a post by Ginger saying that feeling was normal for people like me was all I hung on to. I knew I had to keep choosing myself. Choosing a safe and calm relationship over fireworks and trauma bonds.
Last night that wonderful, respectful man who makes me feel safe and calm asked me to marry him and I said yes. And I still have work to do, I still have parts of me that need healing. But I'm honestly so grateful for this community and to Ginger Dean for helping me get here, to say I couldn't have done it alone is no exaggeration. And if I can stop my wounded little girl running the show, absolutely anyone can! Sending much love and support to all of you on this long road. 💛💛💛
I'm honestly in tears of joy in finally understanding myself more deeply with this course
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Just things click and I'm getting a lot of clarity for everything. I know now why if feels to be empowered and love myself and what I see here and in the program shows me how freaking far I've come! And areas I can keep loving and accepting myself more. And I can finally feel feelings lol
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Hello, just want to say I have been going to therapy for years and your inner circle is amazing. It's so well delivered and easy to understand. It compliments my therapy beautifully and all the things I've been working on post break up after my first committed relationship. Committed relationships apparently highlight your wounds. 🤦♀
Anyway just wanted to say I love the content, I find I watch the videos at least 2 times through to ensure I don't miss anything! Also you have a warm way of delivering. Thank you, looking forward to my year of healing ikyness 😊
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Oh my I just wanted to take a moment and thank you already. I've been binge watching your content and doing the worksheets as I'm so determined to change my patterns. So many things already fell into place for me it's crazy! Also recognizing that I have actually often displayed the behavior that you would say a man would have, definitely seeing the toxic behavior in myself now. I still don't know exactly the difference between what was love and what was toxicity/abuse and it will definitely take some disentangling and unraveling but I'm here for it. Your content gave me a roadmap to start with and finally gave me the strength to say no to my ex today and delete him from my life right now. I realized I had zero boundaries in place around him or others. Zero. Like, ever 😂 Thank you so much, this is absolutely one of the biggest life changing insights I've had. I know it won't be an easy road but this map is definitely giving me confidence to walk it.
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Just wanted to share with you that you've helped me a lot joining the inner circle has been a blessing I'm out of the 12 step groups I just needed a support group. But this helps a lot for me and is less shaming and guilting to me . So I thank you ! You are honestly me in my higher self 🙌 🤍✨ I think of u as my higher self telling me how things work . I'm a psych major too so this is all just helping me 🦋 🤍✨ thank you for all that you do !! ❤️ ✨
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Cheers to the new generation of women raising their standards and getting into the best love affair they’ve ever known
- starting first with themselves.
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Frequently asked questions
The Loving Me After We Inner Circle membership is an online platform for women ready to end the cycle of rejection, abandonment and heartbreak so they can heal and build amazing confidence.
Inside you'll find amazing resources such as monthly master class releases targeting key areas necessary to help you heal your heart while becoming the best self-loving version of yourself. These include how to break trauma bonds, inner child healing methods, mindset, boundaries, denial vs fear vs intuition, how to heal trust and abandonment fears - AND SO MUCH MORE!
You will also connect with a supportive community in our private Facebook group exclusively for members and join me for live online group workshops with each monthly release.
Once a month and here's why.
Going into our third year, we've learned that members struggle with information overload resulting in feeling overwhelmed.
1. For this reason, I don't believe in overwhelming you with another meeting: Healing can be tough, and adding another call might make you feel even more stressed out trying to keep up with everything while also taking care of yourself and handling life's other responsibilities. By having one meeting each month, we're showing you how to create a personal growth routine that models carving out a similar time for yourself to decompress and process between live workshops.
Plus, you'll still have our supportive community to help you stay accountable, answering questions you may have along the way (even at 2am!) when you need us - with me in the group answering questions as well. One day you won't need us (Hello! that's the goal!) and this way you choose when to do the work in between sessions.
For three years we have had nothing short of AHHH-MAZINGGGG transformations using our framework with over 15,000 women going through the program.
We think it works, more meetings ≠ transformation
Here's what sets us apart:
Deep Dive: We move beyond surface-level ego-boosting fluff and focus on creating a healing plan that keeps you stuck in destructive dating patterns so that you can transform your painful relationships.
Holistic Healing: We ditch the cliché tips and one-size-fits-all formulas, and zero in on finding your true self after losing so much of it in painful relationships (by the way, our program focuses on deep transformation, not just temporary motivation by exploring the mind body connection and the impact of complex/relational trauma) and experience healing tailored to your unique relational history with your customized healing path plan.
Emotional Makeover: In our program, you'll unlock your inner wisdom instead of relying on gurus for tips and tricks. You'll learn learn to make healthier choices as we'll guide you through facing fears, toxic shame, and messy emotions.
Lasting Transformation: Say goodbye to short-lived fixes and embrace change rooted in clinical practice and evidence-based skill-building. Our program is founded on a strong framework designed by a psychotherapist with expertise in relational trauma, codependency, childhood trauma, complex trauma, and love addiction and achieve lasting change.
In summary, we offer a transformative journey to help you break free from toxic patterns and create amazing relationships enabling you to live the life you really want and experience lasting change.
If you're struggling with a recent breakup, abusive/toxic relationship, codependency and want to stay on track in your journey towards healing, the Inner Circle Membership will give you the structure, accountability and guidance you need to stay focused.
If you don’t have a strong support system, my monthly guidance and our community of amazing women will help you stay on track.
The Inner Circle Membership is for anyone who wants to stay consistent with their heart healing journey while becoming the best version of themselves — whether you’ve been reading all the latest books on narcissism or are brand-new to your healing journey.
Everything is in the Membership portal! You just log in and can access all the masterclasses, worksheets, videos, online workshops and more. You can access the membership portal from your computer, tablet or smartphone.
Our average member stays with us for 8-12 months so most choose the 6 or 12 month option to avoid a monthly payment and take advantage of the savings over the monthly plan. If you'd like to join and check us out for a month and then upgrade, this is fine.
That’s up to you! This isn’t a course or workshop — there is no curriculum, no “homework,” no schedule.
You can listen to the workshops, masterclasses and engage the monthly challenges, read the emails and connect in the private Facebook group whenever you want, as often as you want. If you’re super busy one week or month, don’t sweat it. You can’t fall behind!
Everyone moves at their own pace.
The awesome thing about the Inner Circle Membership is that it makes it really easy to stay on track and work on everything needed yo heal your heart and become the best version of yourself.
It will be there waiting for you! You can go back to any masterclass, group coaching session, etc., at any time and listen/read/watch/practice whenever you want as long as you are a current member. The Inner Circle Membership gives you flexible structure. There are no rigid rules.
Yes! The Inner Circle Membership is for anyone who has or wants to ultimately deepen their self-love, build amazing confidence and get on the journey towards conscious love -with themselves and/or others.
All you need in order to start is the desire to learn! The Inner Circle Membership gives you structure, support, inspiration and community as you begin your journey. In fact, it’s an awesome place to start thanks to the community (ask any question in the Facebook group) and the flexible structure.
You can cancel your membership at any time from within the membership portal! You will continue to have access until the end of your billing cycle.